I am too grown for that...

I just had a recent club experience which I had not had in an extremely long time and somewhere between walking from my car, standing in line in the rain, and my first drink at the bar I had an epiphany... I am too grown to be doing this. I sucked it up because I was there with friends but I was semi-salty all night. I don't know what really set me off edge or if it was everything collectively. The hot rain humid night that made my hair fall, the fact that my pinky toes decided in unison that they did not like the shoes I was wearing, the drunk guys that grab your arm as if you're supposed to just turn around and say hey boo and dance with them, the crowds of people that walk through your group of friends while you are talking , the pushing, the tripping, the sweating ugh! It felt like a college party all over again, and most of the people that were there had been out of school for at least 4 years. The next morning you feel the slight wooziness of one drink or the hurricane of 4 or more, head hurts, stomach hurts, hair smells like smoke, now the daunting task of being a productive citizen in society. I definitely did not enjoy myself, and now I am wondering is this a part of growing up, or am I going through some beginning life crisis? There was a time when I thoroughly enjoyed my club experiences, now...not so much. I think it may be time for me to hang up my dancing shoes :-/

80/20 Just a Theory

My cousin the non-self proclaimed "family therapist" stopped by to visit with me not to long ago. It was an interesting visit because my ENTIRE family goes to her with every single problem or dilemma going on in their lives. She just has this natural ability to see straight through whatever your situation is and has always given great advice. So this visit was interesting because she was now venting to me and not the other way around. We discussed the usual...Relationships, how silly men are and fabulous women are :-) So she vented and as she spoke I threw in a few similar stories and this is how she summed up our conversation with the 80/20 rule... She said that 80% of the brain of every single man that exists on earth is just alike. They think the same way, analyze things the same way, process things the same way, they may as well all be identical twins. But, the 20% thats left is the part that women fall in love with, thats what makes your man stand alone. Thats the part that we cling to and yearn for. That 20% is where the happy, thoughtful, loving, moments come from. She said, then you sit back, think about it, and you say to yourself, self? do you really want to put up with 80/20 and is 20% really all that I get.  She then states that technically women do not need men we choose to be with a man because we LOOOOOVVVEEE that 20% and when its good it is definitely good. Now this made so much sense, although I dont think that the 80/20 is a number thats dipped in gold, some may be able to adjust the numbers a little bit and if my booski is reading this dearest you are 20/80 (lol). But during girl talk dont you notice that a lot of the stories your friends are sharing seem like your girls are talking about your man? Saying some of the same exact things that your boo said to you during an argument. So I must say while I may not completely agree with the numbers I totally agree with the theory.... Men are from Mars!!! LOL Just some food for thought. What do you think?? 

A Wise Gyrl... Really??

I recently read this quote by Marilyn Monroe and was somewhat disturbed by it..."A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left." I guess it can be understandable but I think its rather sad. Can you ever truly be happy in life  or relationships walking around with a guard up like that? In this life we all want to be loved, we want to find that special someone who loves us unconditionally and live happily ever after. Love and Relationships are by no means easy, it takes hard work, and sometimes takes going through a few paupers to find that happiness, but dont let those few duds make you completely give up on finding true love. Its those bad relationships that you grow from and learn what you want in a potential mate, and what you simply will not tolerate. Love can be scary, and a total emotional roller-coaster, but when you are able to love someone wholeheartedly with no hang ups or inhibitions it is one of the greatest feelings in the world. So I will leave you with some words to live by, mix a little Marilyn with Mark Twain "A wise gyrl enjoys life, sings like nobody is listening, dances like nobody is watching,  loves like she has NEVER been hurt, and lives like its heaven on earth." Don't be like Marilyn and run from love, Love until you can hardly stand it!

Welcome

Hello All and welcome to my baby HeyGyrl. I just wanted to take this time to thank all of you for checking me out and seeing what HeyGyrl is all about. I hope that you really enjoy the content and get involved with the reading. Most posts will probably be short stories, and blurbs about something I read or saw or just how I'm feeling that day, things I question, things others may question, I'll just be sure to give you something to talk about. So once again Thank You, and Enjoy.


Signing off,

B' a Lady