Communication

A couple of weeks back I stumbled upon an article on Pinterest entitled 10 Things that have made all the difference. It came from a blog written by a husband and wife called Today's love letters. In reading the article they were reflecting on their 5 year anniversary, and as a result came up with this list of 10 things that have improved their marriage. Under 1 of they headings they stated that the first 2 years of their marriage that they struggled to feel loved by one another because they didnt know how to communicate their needs, because of that they came up with 5 questions that they now ask each other every Sunday no matter what, and that it has made all the difference in the world. Here are the 5 questions:

1. How did you feel loved this past week?
2. What does your upcoming week look like?
3. How would you feel most loved and encouraged in the days ahead?
4. How would you best feel pursued in sex/ intimacy this week?
5. How can I pray for you this week?

 I thought that this was a pretty neat idea at least to try and see how it works in your relationship. Lets face it, in most relationships are lacking in communication in some form. It is always great to get ideas from other couples to see how they deal with various issues. In addition to this couple asking the 5 questions above, they also stated that they interview each other all the time, because no matter how long you have been with someone you will never know everything about them. Here is a link to check out the entire article, http://www.todaysletters.com/2010/05/10-things-that-have-made-all-difference.html?m=1 ... Enjoy!!!

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B' a Lady

Almost 30...

I don't know if it is just me, but the picture above describes exactly how I feel. I am 2 years from 30, (well, maybe a year and a half lol) but I don't feel like I have accomplished anywhere near what I set out to when I embarked on this journey called life 10 years ago. You know when you leave home for college and you have this "plan", graduate in 4 years, working professional (using your degree for what it is), married, kids, house, traveling. You know the life we see played out on television, or the life our parents either had or told us we should have. Then you graduate, some us go right back to school for advanced degrees, some "take a break", some (1 of 100) end up with a career in their intended field, but even those people after a couple of years of work begin to ask themselves is this it? Is this all their is to life? There has got to be more. I know I am not the only one who feels this way, so I decided to speak out about it. I know that I am no where near what I want to be doing, But, what is stopping me, us? Fear? Procrastination? Lack of a plan? listening to the naysayers? It could be all of the above, or it could be one or 2, but whatever is, what are you going to do about it? I had a conversation with a really close friend of mine last weekend and we discussed this topic. She said she had gotten to a point where she was asking herself what am I doing. But, she also said in the same breath that she asked herself that question she immediately came up with a plan of attack. She said it is one thing to wallow in self pity and say woe is me, everyone is allotted their time to vent, but are you going to complain about it and stay in the same situation or are you going to do something about it? I say all of this to say, if you are in the same boat as me and so many others out there who are wondering if this is all life has to offer, take one day drink a glass of wine and have a pity party, but come out of that party with a plan on what the next 5 years of your life will look like. If you liked the last 5, keep doing what you are doing, but if you want the next 5 to be extraordinary, you are going to have to give extraordinary. You cant keep doing the same things you have been doing the past 5 years and think that something is going to change. I'll leave you with some advice someone gave me yesterday because I tend to be a very passive person, I was told that in order to get the things that I want, that I need to be aggressive about it all, don't just say you want to do something and "hope" that it happens, go out and make it happen, NOW... Just do it (lol, kinda cliche and corny, but that is some of the best advice you will ever get.). Anywho, leave a comment, let me know how you're feeling

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B 'a Lady