Long Distance...Hmmm

An age old question… Do you think that long distance relationships can work? This is my take you, can agree or disagree but I would love to hear your opinions either way on the subject. I honestly do believe that they can, If and only if both parties are willing participants in making it work.  Now I do not think that you can be long distance for an extreme amount of time. There has to be some effort to end up in the same place at some point in time. For me a year is the max, maybe ill stretch it to a year and a half with frequent visits. I have been in a committed relationship for many years, the year that we met each other during our “getting to know you period” we were in the same city for about 4 months, he then moved away and we were long distance for about a year before he returned. It definitely wasn’t easy to keep it together especially since the relationship was so new, but we maintained with a LOT of hard work. A few years later he left again to pursue another endeavor in his life, this time much much further, a tad bit longer, and with less visits. During this time I think we both realized that communication and trust is K-E-Y! I know it sounds a bit cliché but without both of those factors any relationship long distance or not is bound to fail. What I also think is seriously needed is a plan. There needs to be some sense of stability, and a common goal that a couple is working toward whether it is marriage, creating a home environment, or even just discussing future goals together and how you intend to execute them. Without a plan you will just be wandering aimlessly, not knowing where you’re headed, and that could be detrimental. Think about your life outside of a relationship, no one is just living to be living; we are all living working toward a goal, so a relationship in any stage shouldn’t be any different. This is all easier said than done, ill quote the singer/songwriter Ne-Yo here and say “…it won’t always be kisses, hugs, and beautiful words.”  But if you are truly committed and willing to put in the work, there is no doubt your relationship will last!

Recap: Trust, Communication, Stability, Plan