Song Of The Week: Daley ft. Marsha Ambrosius ~ Alone Together

All I have to say is who is this guy and why am I just hearing about him. OMG Love this song!! (P.S. and BTW I could do without Marsha,she is one of those singers you have to be in the mood for and I just haven't been in the mood for awhile lol) Anywho ENJOY!!! (free mixtape download daley.tv )

How To Live Your Best Life

I woke up to an email from oprah.com this morning about 7 steps to live your best life. I thought it was pretty interesting, it mentions some aspects of a vision board in the beginning but it goes so much further than that. It spoke volumes to me and gave me some ideas to implement, especially at this time in my life. so here is the link enjoy!!!

How to Live the Life You Want - Charting Your Life - Oprah.com http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Live-the-Life-You-Want-Charting-Your-Life

Song Of The Week: Mali Music~ I Hate You

God is always working some serious blessings and miracles in my life, even in the darkest of times, I praise him through it all. This has been my jam for a few weeks now and I decided to share. I probably need to add a playlist vs a song of the week because I have really been rocking out this week lol but I hope you enjoy.. if you do please support this artist He has a true true gift. Please pay attention to the lyrics, God is really using him.

Whats in your Kindle?

I do a lot of reading on a daily basis, I try to read at least 5 books a month. Sometimes I do more sometimes less, and there is always a mixture. A little something to keep my eyes on the prize, A little something to help me escape reality, and a little something to help me improve skills I have or want to do better with. So here is a list of what I'm reading right now... Whats in your Kindle???

For the Mind

1. The Science of getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattle  (yep its over there on your right in the HeyGyrl Book corner, I read this book at least once a month it keeps me sane and keeps me focused. It is only about 65 pages and its free so I suggest everyone read. Its not just about money so dont judge it by the title, trust me you will enjoy) http://www.xtrememind.com/science.pdf <----- for the freeski lol

For Fun

2. Sucker for Love by J.T. Smith (Cute story so far. I'm not finished yet, and was experimenting with an author I had never heard of but so far so good. I think I got it for 99cent on Amazon.com

For Relationships:

3. The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman (Very good information not only for your love life, but helps with friends and family as well... another Amazon.com purchase)

For Improvement

4. Always Know What To Say- Easy Ways To Approach and Talk To Anyone by Peter W. Murphy (to some people I'm extremely quiet lol and to others I talk a LOT but sometimes at networking events or when I am sitting in the homes of my clients I get a little self conscious of my conversational skills so I am always looking for ways to improve. This was a quick read and very helpful. Check it out.

Well thats all for now...
Signed B' a Lady

I Love who??? LOL

This is so random, and a lot of people don't know this about me, I don't even know if my closest friends know, but when I was a child I absolutely adored Lucille Ball. I have seen every episode of I Love Lucy known to man and when I was about 5 or 6 I would tell people that when I grew up I was going to change my name to I Love Lucy, no not Lucy, not Lucille Ball, but my entire name was going to be I Love Lucy. There are many reasons why I love her now in my adulthood, but as a child I simply loved her because I thought she was HILARIOUS. Little did I know that she, along with her husband Desi Arnez would revolutionize television as we know it today. Here are some facts about Lucy Desi Empire!


1. Lucy was not only a genius performer, but a smart, innovative businesswoman: she and husband/co-star Desi Arnaz introduced the idea of syndicating TV shows, and she was the first woman to own her own film studio (Desilu).

2. After 2 decades spent trying to become a movie superstar, Lucille Ball was 40 years old when she finally became a Hollywood Player with the debut of 'I Love Lucy' in 1951.

3. Lucy is in the National Women's Hall of Fame, which includes just one other TV star: Oprah Winfrey.

4. Lucy was an uncredited producer on the 1983 Tom Cruise football drama 'All the Right Moves. 'Her second husband, Gary Morton, had co-produced the film via Lucy's Lucille Ball Productions.

5. Among the other TV series produced by Desilu: 'Star Trek,' 'The Untouchables' and 'Mission: Impossible.'

Lucy would have been 100 years old on August 6th, so here is a HAPPY HAPPY Belated birthday to one of my idols.

To Read more about the incomparable Lucille Ball... Check out the Link Below:

http://www.biography.com/people/lucille-ball-9196958

Song Of The Week: Future~ Turn on The Lights

LOL I know I know, my song of the week is a little off but this is my jam this week and for some reason I cant stop singing it. I tried not to like this guy but I cant help it. With that being said...Enjoy!!!

Communication

A couple of weeks back I stumbled upon an article on Pinterest entitled 10 Things that have made all the difference. It came from a blog written by a husband and wife called Today's love letters. In reading the article they were reflecting on their 5 year anniversary, and as a result came up with this list of 10 things that have improved their marriage. Under 1 of they headings they stated that the first 2 years of their marriage that they struggled to feel loved by one another because they didnt know how to communicate their needs, because of that they came up with 5 questions that they now ask each other every Sunday no matter what, and that it has made all the difference in the world. Here are the 5 questions:

1. How did you feel loved this past week?
2. What does your upcoming week look like?
3. How would you feel most loved and encouraged in the days ahead?
4. How would you best feel pursued in sex/ intimacy this week?
5. How can I pray for you this week?

 I thought that this was a pretty neat idea at least to try and see how it works in your relationship. Lets face it, in most relationships are lacking in communication in some form. It is always great to get ideas from other couples to see how they deal with various issues. In addition to this couple asking the 5 questions above, they also stated that they interview each other all the time, because no matter how long you have been with someone you will never know everything about them. Here is a link to check out the entire article, http://www.todaysletters.com/2010/05/10-things-that-have-made-all-difference.html?m=1 ... Enjoy!!!

Signed
B' a Lady

Song of The Week: Mali Music~ Conqueror

This week my song of the week is a little different, it is a gospel song that I love love love, it has been on repeat for the past 2 weeks. I know that I am a couple of years late with this artist and album but I think I found him at the right time, So without further ado this weeks song of the week is... Mali Music~ Conqueror I hope you enjoy, if you do his album is called The 2econd Coming.

Almost 30...

I don't know if it is just me, but the picture above describes exactly how I feel. I am 2 years from 30, (well, maybe a year and a half lol) but I don't feel like I have accomplished anywhere near what I set out to when I embarked on this journey called life 10 years ago. You know when you leave home for college and you have this "plan", graduate in 4 years, working professional (using your degree for what it is), married, kids, house, traveling. You know the life we see played out on television, or the life our parents either had or told us we should have. Then you graduate, some us go right back to school for advanced degrees, some "take a break", some (1 of 100) end up with a career in their intended field, but even those people after a couple of years of work begin to ask themselves is this it? Is this all their is to life? There has got to be more. I know I am not the only one who feels this way, so I decided to speak out about it. I know that I am no where near what I want to be doing, But, what is stopping me, us? Fear? Procrastination? Lack of a plan? listening to the naysayers? It could be all of the above, or it could be one or 2, but whatever is, what are you going to do about it? I had a conversation with a really close friend of mine last weekend and we discussed this topic. She said she had gotten to a point where she was asking herself what am I doing. But, she also said in the same breath that she asked herself that question she immediately came up with a plan of attack. She said it is one thing to wallow in self pity and say woe is me, everyone is allotted their time to vent, but are you going to complain about it and stay in the same situation or are you going to do something about it? I say all of this to say, if you are in the same boat as me and so many others out there who are wondering if this is all life has to offer, take one day drink a glass of wine and have a pity party, but come out of that party with a plan on what the next 5 years of your life will look like. If you liked the last 5, keep doing what you are doing, but if you want the next 5 to be extraordinary, you are going to have to give extraordinary. You cant keep doing the same things you have been doing the past 5 years and think that something is going to change. I'll leave you with some advice someone gave me yesterday because I tend to be a very passive person, I was told that in order to get the things that I want, that I need to be aggressive about it all, don't just say you want to do something and "hope" that it happens, go out and make it happen, NOW... Just do it (lol, kinda cliche and corny, but that is some of the best advice you will ever get.). Anywho, leave a comment, let me know how you're feeling

Signed
B 'a Lady

Think Like A Man

If you were not planning to do so I strongly urge you to go see Think Like A Man in theaters today!!!. I got to see it this past Wednesday with my sister and I have to tell you that it was AWESOMMMMEEEE!!! I loved every moment of it. I laughed so hard I was crying and I smiled so hard at the romantic parts that when I left out of the theater I was like on cloud 9 lol all I wanted to do was go home and cuddle with my booski. I am urging everyone to go out and see it and make it the number one movie this weekend. I promise promise promise you will not be disappointed. After you see it come back here leave a comment and let me know what you think.

2012!

Happy 2012 everyone. I have been on a hiatus for a very long time, but I decided that I was going to start blogging again in the new year so here I am. Look forward to some great stories, music, and all around randomness LOL!


Talk to you soon
B' a Lady

Song of the Week: Ne-Yo - Make it Work

As you get to know me you may realize that I am probably one of the biggest Ne-Yo fans ever! So it is only fitting that they Hey Gyrl song of the week be one of his. I am a sucker for great lyrics, so this is one of my absolute favorite Ne-Yo songs! I hope you enjoy!!

B'a Lady

Long Distance...Hmmm

An age old question… Do you think that long distance relationships can work? This is my take you, can agree or disagree but I would love to hear your opinions either way on the subject. I honestly do believe that they can, If and only if both parties are willing participants in making it work.  Now I do not think that you can be long distance for an extreme amount of time. There has to be some effort to end up in the same place at some point in time. For me a year is the max, maybe ill stretch it to a year and a half with frequent visits. I have been in a committed relationship for many years, the year that we met each other during our “getting to know you period” we were in the same city for about 4 months, he then moved away and we were long distance for about a year before he returned. It definitely wasn’t easy to keep it together especially since the relationship was so new, but we maintained with a LOT of hard work. A few years later he left again to pursue another endeavor in his life, this time much much further, a tad bit longer, and with less visits. During this time I think we both realized that communication and trust is K-E-Y! I know it sounds a bit cliché but without both of those factors any relationship long distance or not is bound to fail. What I also think is seriously needed is a plan. There needs to be some sense of stability, and a common goal that a couple is working toward whether it is marriage, creating a home environment, or even just discussing future goals together and how you intend to execute them. Without a plan you will just be wandering aimlessly, not knowing where you’re headed, and that could be detrimental. Think about your life outside of a relationship, no one is just living to be living; we are all living working toward a goal, so a relationship in any stage shouldn’t be any different. This is all easier said than done, ill quote the singer/songwriter Ne-Yo here and say “…it won’t always be kisses, hugs, and beautiful words.”  But if you are truly committed and willing to put in the work, there is no doubt your relationship will last!

Recap: Trust, Communication, Stability, Plan

Song of the Week: Empty ~Raheem Devaughn

Now this is an Oldie (not too too old) but definitely a goodie! It is one of my absolute favorite Raheem Devaughn songs, the lyrics are quite meaningful and heartfelt. Sooo if you never really paid any attention to them this is your chance listen closely and enjoy! I present to you... Empty! :-)

I Looove Him!

Question: Why is it that women are so quick to call their gyrlfriends and tell them about the latest drama that is going on with them and their man? "Gyrl you wont believe what this clown just did." "Ugh, he makes me sooo mad." "Well, we're not talking again."

But when he does something sweet, anything from a small gesture to a large surprise, we keep that bit of information to ourselves, not purposely its just how we operate. I know we need that person to vent to when we are angry, but have you ever thought about the kind of image you are creating in the minds of your gyrlfriends about your man and your relationship? My mom always told me that there are some things you just keep to yourself (I had to learn this the hard way), but sometimes a gyrl has just got to woosah! However, I propose this; the next time you decide to share a story of "You wont believe what happened now!"  Say something about your boo that you absolutely love. Something cute he did for you, something nice he may have said, or just why you loooove him! I'll start, I loooove my dearest because everyday he makes me feel like I am the most beautiful gyrl in the world! Now it's your turn, Ready, Set.... GO!

The Black Church Keeps Black Women Single and Lonely? « V103 The People's Station

The Black Church Keeps Black Women Single and Lonely? « V103 The People's Station

Check out this article. I heard it on the radio this morning and was completely taken aback. Let me know what you think

B' a Lady

I am too grown for that...

I just had a recent club experience which I had not had in an extremely long time and somewhere between walking from my car, standing in line in the rain, and my first drink at the bar I had an epiphany... I am too grown to be doing this. I sucked it up because I was there with friends but I was semi-salty all night. I don't know what really set me off edge or if it was everything collectively. The hot rain humid night that made my hair fall, the fact that my pinky toes decided in unison that they did not like the shoes I was wearing, the drunk guys that grab your arm as if you're supposed to just turn around and say hey boo and dance with them, the crowds of people that walk through your group of friends while you are talking , the pushing, the tripping, the sweating ugh! It felt like a college party all over again, and most of the people that were there had been out of school for at least 4 years. The next morning you feel the slight wooziness of one drink or the hurricane of 4 or more, head hurts, stomach hurts, hair smells like smoke, now the daunting task of being a productive citizen in society. I definitely did not enjoy myself, and now I am wondering is this a part of growing up, or am I going through some beginning life crisis? There was a time when I thoroughly enjoyed my club experiences, now...not so much. I think it may be time for me to hang up my dancing shoes :-/

80/20 Just a Theory

My cousin the non-self proclaimed "family therapist" stopped by to visit with me not to long ago. It was an interesting visit because my ENTIRE family goes to her with every single problem or dilemma going on in their lives. She just has this natural ability to see straight through whatever your situation is and has always given great advice. So this visit was interesting because she was now venting to me and not the other way around. We discussed the usual...Relationships, how silly men are and fabulous women are :-) So she vented and as she spoke I threw in a few similar stories and this is how she summed up our conversation with the 80/20 rule... She said that 80% of the brain of every single man that exists on earth is just alike. They think the same way, analyze things the same way, process things the same way, they may as well all be identical twins. But, the 20% thats left is the part that women fall in love with, thats what makes your man stand alone. Thats the part that we cling to and yearn for. That 20% is where the happy, thoughtful, loving, moments come from. She said, then you sit back, think about it, and you say to yourself, self? do you really want to put up with 80/20 and is 20% really all that I get.  She then states that technically women do not need men we choose to be with a man because we LOOOOOVVVEEE that 20% and when its good it is definitely good. Now this made so much sense, although I dont think that the 80/20 is a number thats dipped in gold, some may be able to adjust the numbers a little bit and if my booski is reading this dearest you are 20/80 (lol). But during girl talk dont you notice that a lot of the stories your friends are sharing seem like your girls are talking about your man? Saying some of the same exact things that your boo said to you during an argument. So I must say while I may not completely agree with the numbers I totally agree with the theory.... Men are from Mars!!! LOL Just some food for thought. What do you think?? 

A Wise Gyrl... Really??

I recently read this quote by Marilyn Monroe and was somewhat disturbed by it..."A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left." I guess it can be understandable but I think its rather sad. Can you ever truly be happy in life  or relationships walking around with a guard up like that? In this life we all want to be loved, we want to find that special someone who loves us unconditionally and live happily ever after. Love and Relationships are by no means easy, it takes hard work, and sometimes takes going through a few paupers to find that happiness, but dont let those few duds make you completely give up on finding true love. Its those bad relationships that you grow from and learn what you want in a potential mate, and what you simply will not tolerate. Love can be scary, and a total emotional roller-coaster, but when you are able to love someone wholeheartedly with no hang ups or inhibitions it is one of the greatest feelings in the world. So I will leave you with some words to live by, mix a little Marilyn with Mark Twain "A wise gyrl enjoys life, sings like nobody is listening, dances like nobody is watching,  loves like she has NEVER been hurt, and lives like its heaven on earth." Don't be like Marilyn and run from love, Love until you can hardly stand it!

Welcome

Hello All and welcome to my baby HeyGyrl. I just wanted to take this time to thank all of you for checking me out and seeing what HeyGyrl is all about. I hope that you really enjoy the content and get involved with the reading. Most posts will probably be short stories, and blurbs about something I read or saw or just how I'm feeling that day, things I question, things others may question, I'll just be sure to give you something to talk about. So once again Thank You, and Enjoy.


Signing off,

B' a Lady